Networking

One thing I have grown accustomed to over the years is the fact that, to survive and thrive in a military environment, Matt needs to develop deep bonds with his coworkers--after all, in some situations, his life and theirs could literally depend on these connections.  It is also an unspoken (well, actually, very much spoken) rule that if you want to succeed in your given career field, you need to network and be a team player 24/7.  Which means, in addition to work responsibilities, attend lots of social functions.  I have always been very supportive of this practice, and, as a prior military member myself, believe I have a very realistic perspective on the matter.  I happily attend programs with Matt and encourage him to engage in and volunteer for as many activities as he wants.

A unique aspect of our current path (although ROTC was technically my first jarring introduction), however, is that Matt is very much a student right now...and the majority of his classmates are brand-spanking-new USAFA or ROTC grads (i.e., young and single guys and gals).  In other words, folks not accustomed to working family/non-personal time into their daily schedules--and it seems like they have some sort of social or study adventure scheduled every other day of the week.  I am all for study sessions--and weekly social outings, but here everything is very intertwined--such as: studying while watching football all day long at the O'Club or cracking the books in between volleyball and pizza on a Saturday afternoon....which turns the typical get-together into an all-day or all-night thing.

Matt and I butted heads about this a bit last week, and to his credit, he is really stepping up the family time and has started to balance things very well--even finding other ways to bond with his classmates--such as collaborating on computer-based study aids, which makes me feel waaaay more optimistic about our sanity and family stability over the next year.  :o)  It is definitely an adjustment, though.  Matt is 28 yrs old, my hubby, and the father of two fantastic little girls--thrust into a mix of mostly single early-20-year-olds.  It reminded me a little of my introduction to nursing school as a nontraditional student, however, not extremely outgoing by nature--and very accustomed to hands-on, full-time parenting--social activities were never something I sorely missed.  Time to crochet and cook on the other hand, I would have given anything for!  ;o)